How to Be Less Nice and More You

Are you too nice that you tend to go out of your way to please people? Do you tend to do what others want, secretly resenting not doing what you want to do? Being too nice causes resentment, stress, body pain, and being in the friend zone with those we are attracted to. Being less nice and more you means you get to enjoy life more, stay on point with your purpose, passions, and mission in life, and others will find you more interesting because you’ll have more personality. Wasted My Time Being Too Nice Some time around senior year in college, I came home for some vacation and found myself playing games with some friends, but I was too nice to voice that I didn’t want to play with them. I actually wanted to go outside and play some basketball. I was afraid of offending them and so I just stayed put and secretly became resentful of the situation. As a result, I stayed stuck in a situation that wasn’t serving me, and I wasted time I could have spent contributing toward something more fulfilling. How to Be Less Nice and More You 1. Smile less when doing it to please people. This behavior makes you needy. Notice when you have something you’d rather do, but are too scared to voice it because others might get offended. Then, take charge of your life and do what is better for you in the moment. It’s good to be nice, but it’s not nice to not be on your own side too. If you need to take care of yourself by disagreeing with someone or saying, “no” to something, even if others choose to get offended by it, you will feel better for it. And others will actually admire you for knowing what you want. 2. Live your purpose. When you know what you want and actively go after it, you feel alive, fulfilled, and confident. People will orbit around you because they love how certain you are of what you want in life. They’ll love your grounded energy and want to be more like you. To live your purpose, you first have to figure out what you want in life. What do you want? Who do you want to help? What problems do they have that you have the solution for? What results do they get with your help? Find what you are here on planet Earth to accomplish and honor it. By doing so, you become your most powerful and authentic self. And others will find you immensely magnetic. Your Challenge 1. Smile less. Notice when you are smiling just to be really nice and make sure everyone likes and approves of you. Catch when you are in people pleasing mode. Then, own your desires. It’s okay to want things. If you’d rather do something else, say, “no.” People actually are drawn to someone who is certain in what he wants because it shows a person who is in motion and has a direction. 2. Live your purpose. Find out how you want to contribute to the world that fulfills you and then put that dream into a plan. Then go after it daily! Others will see you as valuable because you have the ability to go after what you want. Until we speak again, you were born to be real, not to be perfect. So go out there and be who you are.  To maximize confidence in every area of your life at rocket speed, get your (FREE) ebook, "5 Steps To Break The Anxiety Barrier" here.